I was drawn into this blog post I found by a guy named Michael Mitchell where he outlines 50 rules every dad should try and follow when raising daughters. Can you see your Dad in any of these rules?
50 must-do rules for dads of daughters.
1. Love her mom.
2. Always be there
3. Save the day. She’ll grow up looking for a hero. It might as well be you.
4. Savor every moment you have together.
5. Pray for her.
6. Buy her a glove and teach her to throw a baseball.
7. She will fight with her mother. Choose sides wisely.
8. Go ahead. Buy her those pearls.
9. Of course you look silly playing peek-a-boo. You should play anyway.
10. Enjoy the wonder of bath time.
11. There will come a day when she asks for a puppy. Don’t over think it. At least one time in her life, just say, “Yes.”
12. It’s never too early to start teaching her about money.
13. Make pancakes in the shape of her age for breakfast on her birthday.
14. Buy her a pair of Chucks as soon as she starts walking. She won’t always want to wear matching shoes with her old man.
15. Dance with her.
16. Take her fishing.
17. Learn to say no.
18. Tell her she’s beautiful.
19. Teach her to change a flat.
20. Take her camping.
21. Let her hold the wheel.
22. She’s as smart as any boy. Make sure she knows that.
23. When she learns to give kisses, she will want to plant them all over your face. Encourage this practice.
24. Knowing how to eat sunflower seeds correctly will not help her get into a good college. Teach her anyway.
25. Letting her ride on your shoulders is pure magic.
26. It is in her nature to make music. It’s up to you to introduce her to the joy of socks on a wooden floor.
27. If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often.
28. She will eagerly await your return home from work in the evenings. Don’t be late.
29. If her mom enrolls her in swim lessons, make sure you get in the pool too.
30. Never miss her birthday.
31. Teach her to roller skate.
32. Let her roll around in the grass.
33. Take her swimsuit shopping. Don’t be afraid to veto some of her choices, but resist the urge to buy her full-body beach pajamas.
34. Somewhere between the time she turns three and her sixth birthday, the odds are good that she will ask you to marry her. Let her down gently.
35. She’ll probably want to crawl in bed with you after a nightmare. This is a good thing.
36. Few things in life are more comforting to a crying little girl than her father’s hand. Never forget this.
37. Introduce her to the swings at your local park. She’ll squeal for you to push her higher and faster. Her definition of “higher and faster” is probably not the same as yours. Keep that in mind.
38. When she’s a bit older, your definition of higher and faster will be a lot closer to hers. When that day comes, go ahead… give it all you’ve got.
39. Holding her upside down by the legs while she giggles and screams uncontrollably is great for your biceps.
40. She might ask you to buy her a pony on her birthday. Unless you live on a farm, do not buy her a pony on her birthday. It’s OK to rent one though.
41. Take it easy on the presents for her birthday and Christmas. Instead, give her the gift of experiences you can share together.
42. Let her know she can always come home.
43. Remember, just like a butterfly, she too will spread her wings and fly some day.
44. Write her a handwritten letter every year on her birthday.
45. Learn to trust her.
46. When in doubt, trust your heart.
47. When your teenage daughter is upset, learning when to engage and when to back off will add years to YOUR life.
48. Ice cream covers over a multitude of sins. Know her favorite flavor.
49. The dating day is coming soon. There’s nothing you can do to be ready for it. The sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be.
50. Today she’s walking down the driveway to get on the school bus. Tomorrow she’s going off to college. Don’t blink.”
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We then asked our listeners what rules their Dad imparted to them growing up…
When I was in college my dad would mail me a quick encouragement note with a dollar bill and his golf pencil he used that day. Weird but his way of saying he missed me.
” if it was easy, everyone would do it”
“ My dad is the greatest. I know I can count on him for anything. He’s a terrific grandfather! I feel awful that my children’s father has very little to do with them and they won’t have great memories like these when they are older. They’ll only remember he did very little with them. So sad!!
My dad also told the neighbors kid that santa came in a beer trk.She ddnt believe he came in a sleigh cuz mr bob told her and he wouldnt lie
My dad always said booze is the only answer!This was of course a joke, generally told when he had a few but my brother and i joke about it still.
Daughters often choose a spouse/partner with similar traits to their fathers.
Dads-your actions when they are young can help them make a wise decision
Don’t make any permanent decisions on a temporary feeling
I’m one of three girls, so my dad really deserves some props. But one thing he did that it took us years to catch onto was he always took (and still take the younger sister’s side in an argument (because a big sister always forgives her little sister) I’m the middle sister, I got to win some and lose some.
My father in law’s rul was “do it right the 1st time” and it since become the philosophy of the way my husband and I live.
My dad always said if a guy didn’t want to meet your parents there was a reason and it wasn’t a good sign. I hated it as a teen but at 31, I couldn’t agree more.
This is actually a rule of my grandfather’s and it was if you have time to watch that idiot box which by the way is the tv then you have time to help your mother.
My father always said “always know who their friends are”
When I was in college my dad struggled to tell me he missed me. He’d send me little gifts or newspaper clips to show me. It was nice knowing he missed me as much as I missed him
Dad was always a joker – but when I considered going bk to an abusive ex my mother said if I did she was done with me….I was a mess BUT my jokester Dad + came to me and said mom nor him wld never turn their bk on me but why wld I ever go bk to someone who treated me that way….well that was it, with Dads simple but meaningful wrds I never went back
You don’t walk out of the house until your date walks up, knocks on the door and meets dad. … And then dad offers him a beer…ITS A TRAP. SAY NO.
There is a saying “any man can be a dad, It takes a real man to be a father” my step dad is a real man. Taught me right from wrong n loves me unconditionally
Have your own room (man cave)
Advice from Dad; “nothing good happens after midnight”
Dress to drive, prepare to walk.
my dad was the perfect example of work ethics
My dad said dont get married till im 45 .
My dad told me 2 things, always say what you mean & never let a man define who you
Fast pay makes fast friends- if you owe someone money pay them as fast as possible!
My dad wouldnt let me drive until i was 18
Always end an argument with “I love you”
For the rules your dad has- My dad says no dating until I’m fifty.